Two Approaches To Raising Self Esteem Seem To Work Well

 Two Approaches To  Raising Self Esteem Seem To Work Well

Repeated failure is a sure way of lowering self esteem. Telling someone who has low self esteem to cheer up or be more confident or pull themselves together is very unlikely to help. What they need to do is reprogram their mind and come up with new mental models to see them through the difficult time. Martin Seligman has argued with that is important not to confuse low self esteem with having a naturally pessimistic frame of mind. In particular, both States produce a life feeling of perceived powerlessness that can pervade all aspects of life. Two approaches to raising self esteem seem to work well: cognitive behavioral therapy and neurolinguistic programming, NLP for short. Both have the effect of creating  a new mental model and hence a new mood. The starting point of both approaches is an acceptance that you are experiencing something unpleasant and that are things you can do to improve the situation.  You need to talk and think about what is on your mind, to try to and put into words what you are feeling low about. Cognitive therapy: improve your mood not by working directly on it, but by working in the thoughts that have brought you there. To begin with, it is important to challenge your point  of view and see other possible interpretations. Perphaps  you are feeling hard done by about a particular job that you applied for and did not get. It may actually be helpful to decide that the interview was unfair and that is was carried out very well. 

The second approach, NLP, was the idea of linguistics John Grinder and mathematician Richard Bandler. It draws ideas from a number of discipline and combines them. NLP involves increasing awareness of the way your mind processes experiences; the "Neuro" being aware of how the way you use language affects the way you see things - "Linguistics" and creating new models or ways you see things, The "Programming".